During Marraige Separation

One of the things we always advise people entering this process is to identify some people in your life who are going to support you throughout this journey, who you can lean on regardless of the outcome.

During separation, this becomes even more important as the feelings of isolation increase. No longer do you have that other person to bounce everything off or to tell how your day went.

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Even through the last stages of your marriage, when conflict was a regular part of life, these everyday habits remained, but now that the separation is a reality, loneliness can take over. That’s where we come in. Join our conversation for uplifting advice and support and come along to a meet up event.

A word of caution

From our experience we have found that often the people in your life that you expected most support from fall far short for many reasons and this can be a further blow, when emotionally you are at your weakest.

Take heart though. Through this process you will realise who your real friends are and you will form lasting bonds with new friends who have shared in your growth.

Look After Your Health

Adjusting to life during separation can be stressful. New living arrangements, less income, parenting alone can all be draining so you need to pay particular attention to your own health and wellbeing.

Avoid conflict as much as possible.  Conflict equals stress and the more stress you experience allows a greater chance of physical or mental health problems down the road. So the sooner you reach agreements with your ex the better. This is an important lesson to learn and stick to.

Be Mindful Of The Overuse Of Alcohol

Avoid excessive alcohol: In our experience, most of us have sought solace or comfort in the numbing effects of alcohol, particularly when we are hurting so much. However, it simply doesn’t work in the long term.

Alcohol is a known depressant so it exaggerates an already highly emotional situation, making us feel even lower the following day.

Self-help books can be a great source of inspiration at a time when your life is in a period of extensive change. Among many, we recommend ‘Feel the Fear and do it Anyway” by Susan Jeffers. See our blog for other recommendations by our members.

New Hobby: Seek out a new activity for you to try such as walking or running clubs. Not only are they a great way of relieving stress, they also help you emotionally as you can see physical changes in your body, making way for the next phase – After Separation.

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