15 Biggest Regrets From Middle-Aged Divorcees
Divorce and separation can bring to surface a lot of emotions, from anger, to regret, and sadness. Every case is unique as to why the marriage did not work out. For some it was external factors weighing down, others it was internal, and some a combination of both. This often leaves people wondering if they did something wrong or questioning if they had handled particular situations differently, would their marriage still be intact? We have collected some of the biggest regrets people have posted about their marriage breakups online for you to read. What do you agree with and disagree with? Do you have any regrets of your own from your marriage to add to the list?
- “Biggest mistake: I took her for granted.”
- “Biggest mistake was turning a blind eye to all his affairs and getting married so young!”
- “I think little things add up over the years and if you don’t deal with issues when they come up, lots of people gradually grow apart over time and both parties often take each other for granted.”
- “We stopped putting the other first; stopped nurturing the relationship, dating. Simple everyday things like kissing, holding hands, hugging in public or private waned; growing in separated directions and/or not growing at all”
- “Thinking he was going to change. Trying to change them to be something they were never going to be.”
- “Not giving him the respect and admiration he was looking for. He left me for a woman who needed rescuing and treated him like he was her knight in shining armour”
- “In my first marriage it was believing I could help him and the expectations that we would live happily ever after. Nope. In the second, I’m learning it’s not 50/50. If you both don’t give your all it will never work.”
- “Taking childhood baggage into marriage! It takes work on both sides to make a great marriage! I wish parents knew how their abuse and neglect are setting the stage for future relationships so negatively.”
- “I married someone for stability, promise, dreams, comfort, consistency and protections. Reality was not a concern. It should have been. I depended on and expected too much from him and that was my mistake. Now that I have raised children, I know what unconditional love is and discovered that it was what I was missing in the marriage.”
- “Poor communication. Making assumptions. Not being clear and direct.”
- “Taking on the ‘relationship responsibility’ myself as if I could resolve all issues with love and communication. I didn’t stand a chance. And so…29 years married to my high school sweet heart went up in a funeral pile.”
- “My issue was the fact that I stopped expressing myself in a way that was true to me when the relationship took off… I would walk around on eggshells in front of my partner, for fear of being displeasing, and I gave up my hobbies and interests, too.”
- “My biggest mistake was letting myself be treated like a non-person… no opinions, no choices, no voice. Pornography didn’t help my self-esteem either.”
- “Going into marriage based on shared interests and other ‘surface’ types of similarities/likes and not considering deeper connections.”
- “Getting married to a person who did not share my religion, lifestyle, diet – especially diet. If you can’t eat the same things it is a sign you two do not have enough in common. I know diet sounds trivial, but when you think about it, trying to cook food for someone that you yourself just could not eat gets tiring. So you stop. Men have a thing about women cooking for them. I hear a lot of complaints that wives don’t cook any more. With me, I just got tired of cooking food that I would never eat. So I stopped. He took it personally. Just too many differences.”
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http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/10/27/marriage-regrets-from-middle-aged-divorcees_n_5991420.html
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